Holidays are a time for joy and laughter and reminiscing and giving. And, for many, including me, it can also be a time regret, guilt, pain, and grief. There is space for both in your world, even as you work to feel and be better throughout your life. This post is designated to the ways in which we aim to feel joy despite the negative aspects of the holidays.
It’s holiday time, everyone. Do you know what that means? I’m still trying to figure it out in some ways. For many it’s truly a time of joy and light. For others, heartache, pain, and grief Still, you can experience the joy activated within you as grief sits beside you this holiday season. This has certainly been a trying year. Yet, the holiday season tends to be hard for many over the course of many years. With so many more people losing loved ones and employment and hope this season, though, it tends to show that toughness even more. For me, the holiday season is the exact moment (Christmas eve, 2010) when I lost my mother, who was – and in many ways still is – the rock of my existence. She showed me the ways to be charismatic and thoughtful and brave despite having an illness ravaging my body my whole life. She lost her battle to cancer in her body, but not in spirit. She maintained her joy, and so have I. Let’s talk about activating joy even during the hard part of the holidays.
What is it that we can do to make the holidays only joyful?
Guess what y’all. I hate to break it to you, but the holidays – and tough times in general – will never be only full of joy. And it wasn’t meant to be. Holidays and good times are about love; sharing that love with others and remembering the pride of your accomplishments and what you have created in your life is part of what it’s all about. Yet, if you have lost the very people you share the love with, that can be one of the most critical ways we may let joy float away.
Know that even with difficult spaces held in life, you are not supposed to let the joy simply float away. Guilt and pain and sadness are supposed to be there. Remember, you’ve lost something you cherished. You can’t be happy all the livelong day. However, you CAN remain joyful, because joy will be activated and stay in your heart, whether your feelings go up or down. That is precisely what activating joy means. You don’t have to be happy all the time, especially when your body needs to feel and express that sadness deep down in your heart, letting it out eventually. You do, though, need to have joy to be able to escape the days of the downtrodden feelings. There is space for all of the feelings that live inside of you and your life. Really, there are. However, with joy in your heart, the great feelings come back much faster.
I am so excited, even as the Holidays loom
Although I am missing loved ones this holiday season, and missing good times that have been able to bring me happiness, I have joy to comfort me. I can’t believe I am so blessed as to have it remaining in my heart. That excites me. What excites me even more, though, is that I get to share that joy with all of you. Not only will I share via my blog post, but I am working on resources (still) that will help me teach you and anyone who desires the joy that remains to activate joy. Courses and coaching programs and 1:1 practice and other resources too! All of this is coming, I promise! I can’t wait to share the ways in which joy comes to me in a more thorough and actionable way.
Joy is a necessary aspect of life for all; a way to experience what is and what can be. A way to show that you can have what you so desire, with the energy of light and hope that brings back happiness and positivity, even in the depths of the times we think we can never be happy again. I am actually still thankful for the holiday season, even though it reminds me of one of the worst moments in my life. It was still my mom’s favorite time of year, and it continues to bring family and good feelings together in moments of solitude that allows one to think of what makes them grateful in all of their life. Do that now: just think of what in your life brings the gratitude and love brimming up to the top of your heart. Now is as good a time as any to do just that. What are you grateful for, even in this holiday season during a pandemic of hurt and loss and pain? Please feel free to share in the comments.
- Just wanted to also let you know that I have a workshop coming up! Join me! We will discuss the benefits of implementing my five pillars of activating joy for both yourself and others, as well as some of the action steps to get there. More info on what it’s about, how to join, and how to ask more questions HERE
Happy Holidays all. With so much love and gratitude… for you!